About Mothers – Looking Back   Leave a comment

Green Sea Turtle (Chelonia mydas) at a reef cleaning station

 

My Mother used to quote an old saying that was a popular axiom

in a generation recovering from serious amounts of want.

“You can fall in love with a rich man as easily as a poor man.”

What she meant by this was that we shouldn’t overlook the one’s who

choose to do enough work to achieve their dreams,

even though it means spending less time together.

 

And while you’re at it, you shouldn’t underestimate your own strengths.

Go after your dreams too. Don’t settle for one who only admires the you

that you presently are, but look for a person who appreciates you now,

and knows that there will be an even better you that you will become

on your own time and in your own way.

 

Of course,  in my youth I got that backward.  I thought

that not judging a man meant that I should find a poor man.

poor in heart, poor in spirit, poor in purse, but who I saw potential in.

In other words, someone to change into someone else;

Someone that they weren’t already, and maybe didn’t want to become.

Maybe I should have checked with them first, about what they wanted to do.

 

How rude.

 

I should have looked for one’s who were already what I wanted in the first place,

and then worked on myself to be the best whole me that I could be.

Or just worked on me in the first place,

without looking for someone else.

Let the one who wants what I want

and who wants what I am

come find me.

 

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by  Ellen M. Lattz, April/May 2018

Ellen M Story , Ellen M. Lattz at emariaenterprises, llc. April 2018.

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